You are Greater than Your Fears

OMG – I walked on fire!

I literally walked across hot coals that were over 650 degrees Celsius and I was terrified. 

So many of us live a life that is ruled by fear. 

Fear of what people will say, fear of rejection, fear of not being loved, fear of failing, fear of being ridiculed, fear of making decisions, fear of success, fear of being hurt, fear of things that go bump in the night. 

I know that there are many of you reading this right now that can totally relate. 

Many years ago I learned an acronym for fear. 

F – Fantasied
E – Events
A- Appearing
R – Real 

What does this mean?? 

Anxiety/Fear is when we imagine a fearful event occurring in the future. 

As a parent I have done this many times with my kids, imagining events happening to them while they were out, and OMG, let’s not even get started with what my mind created when they first started driving.  

It hasn’t happened, it’s not real, yet we are creating this scenario in our minds and as the unconscious mind does not know the difference between what is real or imagined, your nervous system responds as though it is indeed happening and happening right now. 

And if we are all honest the majority of what we imagined, the stress and anxiety that we have placed on our bodies, was for nothing because the worst that we imagined never came to be. 

In my excitement, I did try and share this with some people, and I have to say that they were not overly impressed with my simplification of their fear. 

I get it though, my life has been one ball of fear after another and it led to extreme anxiety and stress.

If fear has been your go to for most of your life, if it has appeared to you as your great protector, then of course the fear of letting your fear go would be very real because then who are you without your fear.  What reasons would you then have for not living life to the fullest. 

Fear can feel like the warm cozy coat that you pop on in the middle of winter, it wraps around you, it keeps you warm and it keeps you safe from the outside world. 

Fear also keeps you limited, it keeps you in a dead end job that is sucking the life out of your soul, it keeps you in toxic or abusive relationships, it keeps you single, it keeps you isolated, you keeps you in one place.

Fear sees your potential for growth and creativity and convinces you that this isn’t for you because of XY&Z. 

Fear holds your heart trapped within self imposed iron gates so that it can never feel pain.

Fear watches your dreams and hopes sail off into the sunset locked up in a solid gold treasure chest.

Fear tells you that you aren’t worthy of a loving relationship. 

Fear convinces you that security long term in a job that does not make you happy is safe.

Fear shows you all of the reasons why it’s not safe to trade outside of this country.

Fear gives you all of the outs that you could ever need, all of the reasons why you can’t. 

Fear my friend is not your friend.

Fear is your jailor. 

My motto for the last 6 years has been to feel the fear and do it anyway. 

Which is to say that I only really decided to fully live this miraculous gift of life that I have been given 6 years ago. 

The moment that I fully recognised that there was more to life than just existing was the moment my life began to change forever.

When you desire change and it becomes more than just a wish a hope or a dream and becomes a must, want and a need, then those chains of fear begin to loosen their grip. 

Each time that you choose to face your fear and take action being prepared to accept whatever the outcome may be is a step closer to fulfilment that you become.

As you take each step the fear that prevented you in the first place recedes in the face of your determination and courage. 

You see your fear is like a hungry bear, the more that you feed it, the more of your fear it begins to crave and the larger that it becomes.

Each time that I have faced a fear I had the belief and the fear that I would not be able to do what I was asking of myself.  I was afraid that I would fall flat on my face or make a fool of myself. 

Each time that I have successfully completed a goal that I have set for myself it has felt amazing, euphoric and freeing, and the thought has always been, OMG what was I worrying about.

None of the horrendous outcomes that I had dreaded have ever occurred.

So, this leads me to my most recent leap of faith and facing my fears. 

While at a Tony Robbins event we had the chance to overcome our fears and do the walk of fire. 

Now I will not lie to you, I had already started to prepare myself by telling people that I may or may not actually do it and I was going to wait and see how I felt in the moment and then decide. 

My fear was really starting to creep in, so I began visualising in earnest myself successful completing, in this I kept seeing myself jumping up and down in celebration and excitement at the other end. 

Then came the time to leave the building and head outside to where all of the fire pits had been set up, still not knowing what I was going to do I took off my shoes and socks, rolled up my jeans and followed the crowd chanting all the way to the sounds of drums.

As we were lining up, I happened to see one of the attendants stoking the red hot coals and flames coming out from beneath – now that just added fuel to the fear that was bubbling away inside of me.

Closer and closer I came to my turn to go, all the time calling in all of my team of Spirit and Angels to surround me, then I had a visual of all of the gorgeous people that I work with, my friends and family and in that moment I felt the awfulness of how I would feel if I didn’t do this.

This honestly felt terrible to me, in that moment I saw how disappointed and upset I would be at myself if I let fear control me. 

I knew that the rest of my time at the event would be filled with regret if I chose not to go ahead with the walk. 

The fire you see is the metaphor of overcoming fear in our lives.

It represented really, if you look at it, fear at its highest form. 

So, as it came time for me to go, I thought what the hell, the worst that can happen is I might have a couple of blisters on the bottom of my feet, so be it, I’ll survive.

I took a deep breath, my heart beating 10000 miles an hour, feeling absolutely terrified and took my first step, I took the leap of faith, chanted my mantra and made it safely to the other side feet fully intact and whole.

There are no words to fully describe the elation and euphoria that this moment in time filled me with. 

I have never felt so empowered and liberated as I did in that moment. 

What that one action installed in me, what it reinforced within my entire Being is that there is nothing that I cannot do when I put my mind, focus and intention to it.

This will serve as a reminder moving forward in my life that no matter how real the terror, no matter how big the bear, no matter how outside of my comfort zone I may feel, I have the power within me to rise above it and shine.

So, for you who may see fear as the iron gates or the brick walls that you have no way of going over or getting around I say to you, grab a shovel and start digging your way underneath. 

Fear is the greatest illusion wrapped up in limiting beliefs and self doubt.

You are greater than your fears and you have the right to live this life as fully as you choose.

As you face your fear it no longer has power over you.

As you face your fear and succeed you free yourself from the chains that have bound you. 

As you face your fear and open your heart and your mind to the abundance of opportunity that life has on offer for you. 

Big Love


My New Studio Magic

My hubby and I seriously downsized when we moved to Phillip Island and as I said goodbye to my old beautiful space I began to feel the limitations of my new small space.

Also, my husband got tired of watching me move everything from my small room into the spare room to make space each time that I ran a class or had a client. 

Building another space out the front of our home has been on the cards for about 12 months now and in that time I have visualised what it is going to look like, what colours I am going to have and more importantly how the studio will feel once it is completed.

I am even going to have my beautiful Reiki Practitioners along for a ceremony so that we can invoke together the presence of Angels to bless and activate the studio. 

Earlier in the year while at Byron Bay I visited the very gorgeous Crystal Castle. While there I was in awe of the work that they have done with all of their incredible and very beautiful crystals.  All of the buildings and the pathways are lined with magical crystals. This has inspired me with the idea of having my new healing space also filled with the magic of crystals. 

My mum told me recently that when I was a child I was always collecting rocks and I had one favourite rock that I carried with me everywhere and I even slept with it.

I love working intuitively with crystals, to me they seem to call to me whenever I walk into a shop or when I am preparing for a client.

For me personally I prefer to work intuitively with crystals.

To do this I always calm my mind by focusing on my breath and placing my attention on my heart.

Then I ask who would like to work with me.

I say who because each of the crystals seem to have a personality of their own and as you tune in this way you will be connecting with the crystal whose properties you or your clients are most in need of. 

Over the last 3 months I have been gathering all of the crystals that I have been intuitively guided to include.

With the help of a good friend of mine who loves crystals as much as what I do, we have come up with the idea and plan of a crystal mandala that will be laid underneath the floor of my healing space.

Thankfully the builder is a good friend of mine and he has worked out the way in which we can do this so that the crystals will not be weather effected or lose any of their incredible healing qualities.

As you can imagine this is an incredibly exciting time for me as it will now allow me the space to do more of the work that I love to do such as running workshops, larger group meditations and teaching.

So, I thought that I would share with you the crystals that are going into my mandala and what they will each bring to my space.

Firstly, what I have done is I have added a coin to symbolise prosperity and abundance in each of the holes that have been dug for the footings.

In these I have also placed clear quartz, rose quartz and a variety of grounding crystals.

The Mandala itself will have the following crystals included in it. 

Rose Quartz

Rose quartz with its gentle pink essence, is a stone of the heart, a Crystal of Unconditional Love. It carries a soft feminine energy of compassion and peace, tenderness and healing, nourishment and comfort. It speaks directly to the Heart Chakra, dissolving emotional wounds, fears and resentments, and circulates a Divine loving energy throughout the entire aura. Reawakening the heart to its own innate love, it provides a deep sense of personal fulfilment and contentment, allowing one the capacity to truly give and receive love from others.

As all of the work that I do is heart centred and to guide others to a place of self love and acceptance this seemed more than fitting.

Clear Quartz 

Clear quartz is known as the master healer and amplifies the properties of other crystals. It balances and revitalises the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual planes.  Cleanses and enhances the organs and subtle bodies and acts as a deep soul cleanser, connecting the physical dimension with the mind and also enhances psychic abilities.  Clear quartz stimulates the immune system and brings the body into balance. 


Angelite raises the state of conscious awareness representing peace and brotherhood. Angelite facilitates contact with your angels and spirit guides and connects you with your higher self.  It also enhances psychic healing and telepathic communication and enables astral travel and spirit journeys. Angelite also helps you in speaking your truth, encourages forgiveness, and is a powerful stone for healing providing protection for the environment and the body. 


Fuchsite crystal infuses the heart chakra with healing vibrations that promote peaceful relaxation and creative, positive thoughts. The magical vibes of Fuchsite also reminds us that joy and happiness are our natural state of being and aids you in restoring joy and happiness in your life. Fuchsite provides healing and cleansing, releasing you from thoughts and emotions that are no longer healthy for you. Fuchsite brings emotional, mental and spiritual balance. 


Amethysts are powerful in assisting in spiritual healing. Amethyst aids you in obtaining a calm, clear mind that is better able to receive communication and guidance. Amethyst is thought of as mostly a protective stone as it is linked to the crown chakra, it is helpful in purifying the mind and clearing it of negative thoughts.  It is a powerful tool in clearing negativity of stress and anxiety, making it wonderful to meditate with. The amethyst also increases intuition.

Black Tourmaline 

Black Tourmaline is a powerful stone for protection against negative energy. It is also a strong spiritual grounding stone.

So as you can see I have all of my basis covered for all of the work that I love to do and I cannot wait to feel how beautifully they will all resonate together to enhance the sacred space that I am so blessed and excited to be creating. 

I can’t wait to share the progress with you all.




The Power of a Daily Spiritual Practice

Many of you would know by now how passionate I am about the power of meditation
I am passionate about this because it was what I was guided to do 6 years ago now when my life was completely out of control. 
I was living day to day with migraines, I was under a ridiculous amount of stress in my working environment and my relationships were not healthy.
In addition to that, I was struggling with so many addictive behaviours that I was spiraling out of control.
I was addicted to the game Candy Crush and my beautiful daughter still mentions how unavailable I was for her as I always had my head in the game. 
I was also addicted to substances both prescribed and unprescribed. 
The more intense my emotions became and my sense of not being in control of my life, the more I buried myself in my addictions in order to numb the pain, stress, anxiety and overwhelm that I was experiencing. 
I felt a complete sense of isolation and disconnection and I did not feel that there was anyone that I could speak with or that could help me with what I was going through. 
I felt a deep sense of shame and embarrassment and also a complete inability to change or stop what I was doing. 
You see I had turned my back on my Spiritual Self and because I felt so deeply ashamed of myself for being such a wreck and a failure in every area of my life I believed that I was not good enough to seek the help of the Universe.
I had always been such a “good” person and had always done the “right” thing.
I had a strong connection to the Divine for as long as I could remember and in turning my back on what was once a daily practice for me, it only served to deepen my sense of isolation and disconnection. 
The further away that I moved from that connection the more intensely I sought solace, connection and fulfillment in all of the things that could not give me what I was so desperately seeking.
Wholeness, love, acceptance, worthiness, appreciation, validation, respect.
My darkness moments were filled with self hatred and self loathing, it was suffocating, oppressive and I felt that I might drown and never again be able to breath.
This would just see the cycle begin again in the attempts to numb the pain. 
So in a moment of despair I begged the Universe to please save me from myself because I knew that I could not go on living the way that I was.
As the Universe is always there to help us, my help come in the form of assisting someone else and in doing so I came across a meditation app. 
The rest they say is history, but I don’t want to just brush over it. 
Introducing a daily meditation practice into my life was my recovery.  
In the blink of an eye my life literally changed forever.
I surrendered myself into the faithful and loving arms of the Universe and followed where It was guiding me. 
I started out with just 5 minutes meditation morning and night. 
I deleted all of the games off my phone.
The TV, Radio and all media went off.
I cut out all addictive substances and I started to eat clean. 
I bought myself journals and I started the journey of self love and self forgiveness.
Each day my meditation experience filled me with hope, hope that I could heal, hope that I was lovable, hope that the Universe was supporting and loving me in spite of all of my actions.
It was through my daily meditation practice that I began to feel the connection and wholeness that I had spent so long searching for outside of myself. 
It was in these moments that my faith in life was renewed, my connection to the Divine was rekindled and I began to build a relationship with myself. 
It was during this time that I reconnected with the spiritual tools that I had once known so intimately.
I started my daily reiki self healing again also.
Within 5 months my world was vastly different. 
My home was filled with beautiful relaxing music, candles burning, a sacred space had been created, I completed my Ascension Reiki Master level and I started doing my healing and intuitive work again.
Most of all I started to share with others my love and passion of meditation
I introduced daily spiritual practices into my life such as:
Reading and listening to spiritual teachers
Journalling – manifesting, setting intentions
Getting out in Nature
Self love exercises and positive affirmations
Reframing negative self talk 
Exercise and healthy eating 
I can see now as I look back over my life having been born with such a powerful connection to the Divine that my period of darkness was for a higher purpose.  As are all of our experiences. 
Mine was this… 
The connection that I have now with myself and the Divine is beyond anything that I had ever experienced before my darkness.
The love and compassion that I feel for myself, others and life is so profound and so much more than I had ever experienced before my darkness. 
The level of understanding and empathy for the pain and suffering of others is more than I could have ever appreciated before my time of darkness.
If you are ready to step out of your darkness, to come back to love and wholeness then introducing daily spiritual practices is the vehicle in which you can do so in a way that lovingly supports you. 
Much Love 

You are NOT bad

In all of the women that I have worked with, spoken with, and especially read for, there always seems to be an underlying thread. 
With all of the women that I have worked with the common thread is that they are worried that the cards, the universe or myself will identify that they are bad in some way or that there is something wrong with them. 
I am always fascinated by this and I believe that each and every one of us on some level have this underlying belief that there is something wrong with us, that we are going to be punished for our deeds or that we are not good people. 
Now I for one am not immune to this thinking as it has been an underlying belief that has followed me throughout most of my life.
This of course can most often be traced back to our earliest childhood. 
For those of you who have had religious upbringings this of most likely links back to the church.
There were rules of how you should live your life and then the regular confessing of your sins that helped to ingrain the sense of wrongness or badness within you.
Then there were the old belief systems that sex was an act that could only be performed within the sanctity of marriage. 
That’s even if you had a clue what sex was growing up because back in my day sex was not talked about or taught in anyway.
Sex was not something that I took lightly. I was absolutely terrified at the thought and I was lucky enough to have had an amazing first love that waited until I was ready and unlike so many women I only have good stories to tell about my early experiences. 
This however did not take away the awful feeling that ran through me that I was bad and quite frankly it messed with my head in a huge way.
What I know from being a Time Line Therapy & NLP Master Coach is this, all of our decisions and limiting beliefs come from the following:
The ages 0-7, 8-14, from within the womb, past life or are passed down genealogically.
Many of us are not even aware of the decisions that we made we just know that it must be true even though we cannot logically explain it. 
So you can see that in making a decision at such a young age about yourself is only then reaffirmed throughout your life as things happen:
For example – you may feel rejected by someone = I am not loved or lovable 
You may be asked to be quiet in class and everyone looks at you or the teacher embarrasses you = It is not safe for me to speak
You may be full of joy and dancing around and someone says something negative about it = I cannot be joyful.

I remember once I was home on my own and I was in my lounge room at home singing my favourite song at the top of my lungs and my recorder was my microphone. 

I did not hear my parents come home and as I used to lose myself when singing I got a shock to see them, my dad thought it was hilarious that I was using a recorder as a microphone and made a joke about it.

I was so deeply humiliated and embarrassed that it effected my confidence to sing in later years as the underlying embarrassment was that people would laugh at me.  
Now my dad is the most beautiful man in the world and I love him dearly, he would never have done anything intentionally to hurt me and he would be so upset to know how deeply that had burned into my heart and my soul.
We all have lists of stories and events like these and worse that have accumulated throughout your life and decided that it must be truth. 
What I am trying to convey to you is that it is our own internal judging that goes on long after these events or circumstances have passed.  
We believe that because someone else said it or thought it of us it must be truth.
At the core we all feel a deep sense of shame on some level, shame for our actions, shame for the words that we have spoken, shame for our thoughts and shame that we are not all freaking perfect, we aren’t the right weight, we don’t have the right hair, we don’t wear the right clothes, we aren’t the greatest mums, we don’t have enough money, or we just think that we have failed on a colossal scale. 
The work that I do now as a Self Discovery Coach is to undo all of that wiring of limiting beliefs and decisions.
I have spent the last 6 years rewriting all of my own programming.  
Each time that I have had a negative thought about myself I have shifted into these affirming words:
I love and approve of myself
I am enough 
I am perfect just as I am 
The Universe loves me 
I am a great person. 
I can do this 
I’ve got this
I am safe
Life loves me 
Everything is working out for me 
The Universe has my back
I am doing the best that I can right now
Yes it still rears its ugly head if there is an emotional trigger but I am now equipped with this undeniable knowledge.
There is nothing in this world that you can do, be, say, think or have that would change how powerfully and unconditionally the Universe loves you.
In the eyes of the Universe you are perfect in every way.
In all of the women that I worked with the Love of the Divine has shone through with so much compassion and appreciation for all that everyone of her children has been through, and shown nothing but deep love for their pain, their sorrow, their shame and their fears and for who they are just as they are.
NEVER has there been any form of judgment coming from the Divine there is only love. 
The only judgment is coming from you yourself. 

It was through my regular meditation practice that I first encountered this incredible sense of unconditional love rising to meet me. 

At first it literally bought me to my knees and initial reaction was to deflect it and flinch away from it because HOW could the Divine possibly love me after all that I had done “wrong” in my life.
And even though I wanted to deny that this could be true I continued with my daily practice.

I began to sense that if the Divine could love me so intently then maybe just maybe I could begin to believe that I was worthy, that I was good, and that I was lovable.

It was through this journey that I could begin to forgive and accept myself.
After all of the work, seeking, soul searching and connecting to the Universe that I have done this is what I now for sure. 
You are not bad.
You are beautiful, you are perfect, you are loved, you are lovable, you are doing the best that you can and that is more than enough.
Everything about you is perfect in the eyes of the Divine.
Much Love


Having spent the majority of my life being a Yes person and a chronic people pleaser, setting healthy boundaries for myself was something that I had always struggled with.

Saying no to someone always came with the fear of rejection, and of not being loved.

What I have come to know is this…

The people who love and value you the most are totally loving, respectful and accepting of your boundaries.

Why?  Because these are YOUR people. They are the ones that value you as a person and they support your choices.

The people that don’t like your boundaries are NOT your people and it’s ok to not have them in your life.

We spend so much of our precious energy trying to get love and validation from people whom if we are completely honest with ourselves are not in alignment with our own integrity or personal values.
Learning to say thanks but no thanks with love has empowered me greatly in my life.

Choosing the right kind of people to surround myself with has improved my life and my sense of happiness.

Saying sure I’m happy to do that – and then saying when suits me to do so has also empowered me in my life.

On an energetic level when you decide to set boundaries for yourself you are in fact making the statement to the world that you matter, your needs are important and it is the greatest act of self love that you can do for yourself. It is from here then that you begin to attract to you the right people who love, value, accept and honour you.

This creates a ripple effect in your life as you begin to experience more love, value and respect from those that are already in your world.

Those who are not your people will either step up to being that or will simply fade out of your life.

Where in your life do you currently need to set healthy boundaries that serve your highest good?


What do you REALLY have control of?

So many of us I am sure can relate to this at some level in points of our lives, or you may be experiencing this now in your life. 

I once used to suffer from a terrible need to control my environment and everyone in it in order for me to feel safe and comfortable.

Many of you may know this intimately or you have someone close to you that is like this.

The house needs to be spotless, things need to be done in a certain way or everything about you is micro managed.

I have experienced both being this person and being on the receiving end of said persons.

I don’t know how many nights I came home from work and would rant and rave because the house was not clean enough.

I will admit that I ranted and raved at my kids when really I was angry that my then husband, who had been at home all day and had done nothing.

So instead of saying anything to him about this, I would rant and rave in the general direction of who ever was in ear shot. 

It was on one such occasion that all of the wind went out of my sails as I almost had an out of body experience and saw and heard myself in that moment and witnessed the impact I was having on the ones I loved the most, my kids.

In that moment I realised that not only was I negatively impacting myself both physically and energetically, I was also having the same impact on my kids.

I have also experienced working in an environment where everything was controlled and micro managed.  Again this had a negative impact on my physical, emotional and energetic wellbeing.

In all of these instances there was a constant underlying thread. I was either trying to control everything outside of myself, or was being controlled by people and situations again outside of myself.

The last 6 years of meditating daily has taught me many things about myself and the world around me.

One of the most freeing however has been the realisation that there are only two things in this life that I have any control over.

How I feel, and how I respond, in any given moment.

Now I known that many of you may instantly think that you don’t have control over how you feel and I beg to lovingly differ. 

Whenever you have an emotional response to something or someone we often blame that person or situation for making us feel a certain way. I would like to break it down to you like this.

No one can emotionally make you feel anything. What actually occurs is that you have a visceral response in your body, hormones are then released into your blood stream.

From this you then attach a thought to that response eg: 
I have a tightening in my body –
Thought = that is because ***** said this or did this thing.

Then you attach the thought to the emotion and potentially continue to add more thoughts to create a structure or a story around that initial response coming up with the conclusion that this person or situation made you feel a this way.

As confronting as this may feel or sound to you it really is only our thoughts about a situation that makes us feel a particular way.

So how can you take back your own power and control in these situations?

First stop and take and breath Ask yourself “What are the thoughts that I am thinking right now” 9 times out of 10 those thoughts will be negative either about you or the other person.

Replace those thoughts with these suggestions:
I am enough 
I am safe and loved
Everyone is doing the very best that they can with the resources they have
This is not about me and everything to do with how this person is feeling internally right now
I am worthy 
I am doing the best that I can right now
I am ok 

This form of instant rethinking puts an immediate stop to the train that you were about to hop onto and allows you to control how you respond in this situation and how you feel internally. 

This is a technique and a strategy that I have been using the last five years and it has been instrumental in placing me back into being at cause in my life rather than being at the effect of everything and everyone outside of myself.

I have no control over anyone else, how they feel, what they say or even what action they take.

What I can control is how I feel, how I respond and what action I choose to take in my life.

I have given so much of my power over to other people and situations in my life and I no longer chose to do.


The Universe is seeking you to be its voice

You know every time that I think to sit down and write a blog I am immediately filled with thoughts of I don’t have anything to say and have no idea what to talk about.
Yet sit me down in front of a group of people and you would be hard pressed to shut me up because ideas and information spews forth from me like an erupting volcano.
In those moments it is easy for me because I am being of service to others and I am fully connected to the group energy and the energy of the Universe.
So I always trust that the exact right words, ideas and information that is for the highest good of the group will always come to me.
I guess in a way this is really no different as I am still working to the group energy of whomever shall read this, but it is still so much easier when you are in front of someone.
I find this to be a common belief by many people, they believe that they have nothing to say or what they do want to say will not be valued or heard by others.
It is only when our thinking mind gets in the way that we find ourselves completely mute or stuck. 
Then there is the magical moment when the Universe steps in and works through you at the perfect moment without you even having to think about it. 
I am sure that you have had plenty of moments yourself when someone has come to you with something and you have found yourself saying words to them and then afterwards you were like “wow where did that come from?”
To me it feels like this… I see the Universe as a constant source of energy that is always seeking an output, a plug so to speak.
You are the plug and when the current aligns the energy of the Universe flows through you giving way for it to express itself in the perfect way at the perfect time.
Whenever I am faced with an opportunity to be of service to someone else, where once I would have gotten in my head about OMG what is the right thing to do or say here, I instantly send a thought to the Universe “What would you have me say” or “Give me the right words” or a very simple “help”.
The key here is to then trust, be open to the feelings and thoughts that arise within you or come to you from outside of yourself and then take a breath or two and then let it come from your heart.
When words are spoken from the heart, they come from a place of pure love.
When your intention is to be of service to another or to ease another’s suffering there is a deep resounding truth that resonates through your words and touches the heart of the other on a deep soul level.
Fear is not an option here, faith that you are divinely guided in all situations will rise you above all of your doubts and self judgments and instantly place you into full alignment literally with Divine intervention.
So if it is your intention to be of service in what ever way serves your highest good, then surrendering to the love of the Universe will always guide you true.
You will know in your heart if this has occurred as it is usually common that afterwards you can’t really remember what you said.  In the moments that those words are flowing from you there is a sense within you of a profound experience occurring.
Allowing the Universe to use you as its conductor of energy feels amazing, your heart expands, you feel safe, and you know on some deep level within you that it is not from you that the words are coming from, it feels natural, it flows easily and it is full of love.
So the next time that you find yourself in a conversation with someone which by the way is never random. 
Trust that this has been beautifully manoeuvred by the energy of the Universe and in this moment it has chosen to plug into you so that its loving wisdom can flow through you to the person in need of its message.

What if just for today normal was you as you are!

I love the work of the great Maya Angelou.
I especially love this quote from her.
“If you’re always trying to be normal you will never know how amazing you can be”
Having spent a lifetime of trying to fit what others needed me to be in order to feel loved and accepted was debilitating and exhausting.
I never felt “normal” growing up and as an empath I spent most of my early years and adulthood trying to change how I was in order to make other people happy.
I believed that if I made them happy then they would love and accept me in the way that I needed.
This was so confusing for me as I often felt as though I was continuously walking a tight rope and at any given moment I could fall off into the abyss below.
This led to years of not having a clue of who I really was and I constantly felt ready to run or ready to fight.
With this also came the belief that there must be something fundamentally wrong with me, that something deep inside of me was flawed.
This was the conclusion that I came to as otherwise I would be good enough for people to love me for who I was. Right?
I would often be with a group of people and feel so totally on the outer, as though I was standing on the other side of some invisible glass wall and no matter what I said or did those who were on the inside could not see me or hear me.
I often did things that were crazy out there and pushed all of the boundaries just to see if people would even knew that I existed.
If I could warp back in time I would grab my younger self up in the biggest hug and tell her how incredibly awesome she was.
I would tell her how amazing her thought processors were in how she viewed the world for someone so young.
I would tell her that I admired and respected her values and intuitive knowing of how people deserved to be treated.
I would tell her that her ability to read other peoples thoughts and emotions were her superpower and that one day this would give her to the skills to help others who could not or did not know how to help themselves.
I would tell her that she was perfect just the way she was and that she belonged here.
I would tell her that her voice was beautiful and touched the hearts of others.
I would tell her that her crazy laugh and sense of humour was so infectious that it lifted the spirits of those around her, and give them permission to do the same.
I would tell her that her ability to laugh at herself and not care who she embarrassed herself in front of would one day give her the courage to stand in front of others and give them the courage to be themselves also.
I would tell her that her body was beautiful and that she should stand tall and proud.
I would tell her that her spiritual connection to the energy of the Universe and God was her magic wardrobe doorway into other worlds.
I would tell her that her uniqueness was what made her special.
I would tell her that there is nothing wrong with her and that as long as she loved herself no one else’s opinions would ever harm her.
My younger self had to wait more than 40 years to hear those words from her future self and I still have to remind her of that often.
Who you are is who you were born to be.
When you spend your life determining your worth based on the opinions of others, of trying to fit into the picture of “perfect” that society has determined and lets be honest ‘NO ONE” can ever achieve, you are left with the constant sense and feeling of NEVER being good enough for anyone.
What if just for today you focused all of that energy and all of that time on just being who you are now and being completely ok with that.
What if just for today you laughed when you wanted to, you jumped up and down when you wanted to, you said what was in your heart when you wanted to, you shared your views when you wanted to, you played and goofed around when you wanted to, you ate what you wanted to just for the pure joy and pleasure of it, you made daisy chains and tied them around your head, you sang at the top of your lungs, you danced like no one has ever danced before.
Just because you want to.
What if just for today you didn’t wait for someone else’s approval to just do you.
What if just for today you let everyone else worry about themselves and you just focused your love and attention on you.
What if just for today you allowed yourself to be ok just as you are.

What if just for today you said F*K you to normal and embraced every beautiful, quirky, whacky, joyful and wonderful aspect of who you are. 

Big love

Are your external relationships leaving you wanting?

I can’t help but wonder how satisfying relationships can be if there is a constant need within for validation, approval and acceptance.

It has been my own personal experience that the more that I turn my attention to the outward validation that I may be seeking the unhappier and more dissatisfied I become. 

This feeling of approval, acceptance and validation is a fundamental human desire, it is a basic human need and we continuously seek this outside of ourselves through people, experiences and things.

Have you ever experienced the desire to have a new car and for months the mission of finding the perfect car at the perfect price lights you up and fills you with excitement?

Then once you have the car for a month all of those feelings of happiness and satisfaction are gone and your car is just a car. 

This is how fleeting our attachment to external people or objects is. 

When you attach your happiness to form it can never continue to provide you with the same level of happiness.

I am sure like me most of you have experienced what you believed to be the perfect partner.  

This initially fills you with feelings of love, security, acceptance and happiness. 

Then after a few months there are behaviours or quirks of the other person that no longer continue to give you the same high that you once felt and you begin to become discouraged or confused and start wishing that it could be like it was in the beginning.

What I have observed in my own behaviour and in the experiences of so many people that I have worked with is this.

In the moment that you believe that you have found the “thing” that is going to complete you, make you feel whole, safe, loved and happy you place upon it the need for it to remain exactly as it is and to not ever change.

This in itself is impossible as we live in an ever evolving and ever changing world.  

People have their own growth to experience and in the moment that you want them never to change you are in fact taking your heart out of your chest, placing it onto a platter and presenting it to the other person for them to now forever be responsible for your happiness. 

I love my husband dearly and it has not always been an easy road for us.

At the time that I began to go through what I lovingly call my “reawakening” process I was afraid that our relationship would not survive how radically I was changing. 

When I say changing what I mean is that finally I was stepping fully into the truth of who I was meant to be and embracing all of my natural born spirituality.

I was receiving so much information from the Universe and in a sense unlearning all that I had known myself to be before.

It was in those very early days of beginning to speak what I was receiving, the connection that I was building not only with myself but with Source. 

I think it is fair to say that not many people around me were speaking my language and this only further fuelled my life long need of being accepted and loved. 

It was raw, it was thrilling, it was terrifying and it was liberating all at the same time.

What this experience taught me was that the only approval, validation, acceptance and love that I was really seeking was my own. 

My only choice was to love me for who I had been and who I was now becoming.

The relationship that I was reigniting with my Soul and the Universe was becoming so important to me that there was no other need that I felt, there was nothing material or external that could possibly fill the desires that I had previously had. 

Here was an unconditional love and support that no one else was actually capable of providing me with.

These are some of the steps that helped me help myself on my spiritual reawakening

* Through regular meditation I accessed a part of myself that I have forgotten, the soul aspect of myself 

* Meditation connected me to an unconditional love that I had never truly experienced before 

* Whenever I felt unloved, unsupported or unheard I immediately went within and asked myself how I could love myself more, support myself more and what was the voice within that I was not listening too

* Daily mirror gazing and telling the reflection of myself in the mirror how proud I was of her, how much I valued her, how much I like this new person looking back at me and how much I loved the person that I was before 

* I became brave enough to speak what was really in my heart and mind 

* I allowed myself to be truly vulnerable and that terrified the crap out of me

What happened then over the course of many months and years was this:

* The Universe placed the perfect people in my space that were ready to hear the new discoveries and truths that were unfolding for me. 

* My relationship with my friends, my children and my partner deepened.

* My need for external validation and approval reduced significantly – I say this because it occasionally arises within me but I am now fully equipped with all that tools I need to come back to centre. 

* I forgave myself and others 

* I grew in leaps and bounds both personally and spiritually.

So my beautiful friend are your external relationships leaving you wanting or a bad taste in your mouth? (If however you are at risk of harm please seek immediate assistance)

If so then I invite you to begin implementing the above strategies into your daily life.

The sooner you start building the perfect relationship with yourself first and foremost the sooner this can become a physical manifestation in your external world.


Come back to the Voice of your Heart and Your Soul

At times I find myself incredibly overwhelmed with the responsibility of being successful of being the best version of myself and in being all that I need to be for all who need for me to be “me”.

I sometimes feel that I have worked so hard to heal and self develop and yet at times I still feel like I’m walking in the dark.

I honestly feel that the crazy messaging that we are all exposed to at this powerful time of online messaging can often make us feel less than or that we aren’t doing enough to save the world and humanity or that we aren’t successful because we haven’t yet figured out what the fuck it is that we are supposed to be doing.

I find that at these times it is a clear indicator to me that my attention has wandered too far outside of myself and I am not paying attention to the internal dialogue that is going on in my head. I haven’t given myself enough time of stillness, of coming back to the present moment, I haven’t been giving myself enough love or self care and have wandered out of the flow of connection to the Heart and my Soul.

Sound Familiar?

I also find that as the planets go deeper into retrograde and we are all asked on a deeper Soul level to awaken, as we are all upgraded energetically, cosmically and spiritually that the feelings of overwhelm can arise within us even more intensely.

This may present to you as a heightened sense of anxiety, feelings of confusion or just feeling as though you are the kite that has let go of the one holding the handle and you are randomly floating out in space with no clear direction or answers as to where you may potentially hit the ground.

It is a tightness in your chest that you need to be doing something but you can’t figure out what, there is a weight pressing down on you and for the life of you, you can’t figure out what to do to lift that weight.

It is during these times that we are all called to go within to come back to our breath and to focus our attentions on being in more in the present moment.

Here are some tips to help you through these powerful times ahead.

  • Create your very own sacred space
  • Light your favourite candles 
  • Play your favourite music 
  • Place your hand on your heart 
  • Feel your feet on the ground beneath you 
  • Give thanks and appreciation for all that Mother Earth has provided you with
  • Take 10 conscious breaths – following your breath all the way into your body and all the way out of your body
  • Move your awareness into your heart centre
  • Feel and sense the light of your Soul from deep within your heart centre 
  • Visualise a cord of light moving from your heart centre down through your body, your feet and down into the heart of Mother Earth 
  • See your cord of light connecting to the heart centre of Mother Earth 
  • Sense her energy rising to meet you as it settles and connects with your heart centre 
  • Visualise a cord of light from your heart moving up through your crown chakra and reaching out into the Universe
  • Feel and sense your cord of light connecting with the Heart of the Divine/Source/God Consciousness 
  • As you connect in with the heart of the Divine feel and sense her/his energy and love flowing back down to you and connecting with your heart centre
  • See yourself wrapped in the loving arms of Mother Earth and the Divine, as above so below 
  • Breathe in these beautiful energies with your breath for a minimum of 10 minutes 
  • Take out your journal and ask heart that is now filled with the energy of the Mother Earth and the Divine what it is that you most need to hear and know at this time.

As you connect to those energies you awaken the voice of your Heart and your Soul allowing you to be intuitively guided from within at this time.