While out walking this week I was gifted with some really interesting insights into meditation and life and was inspired to share them with you all.
Are you answering your Lightworker call?
I am sure that you have heard this term over and over again, we have become as familiar with the term Lightworker as we have Empath.
How awesome is that, how amazing is it that we can actually speak those words aloud and have a normal human conversation about what it might mean without fear of being ostracised from our communities.
In 1991 I entered a very unknown cute little blue building that was called a Spiritualist Church, imagine telling my very Catholic family about this, understandably everyone thought that it was some form of a cult.
It wasn’t though, I will admit that I was scared and had absolutely no idea what on earth it was all about I just knew that I was meant to be there.
It was actually the first place that I had ever entered in my life where I felt loved and accepted for who I was.
It was a place where all of the weirdness of me, all of my unusual traits, feelings, thoughts and imaginings were actually completely accepted and celebrated.
This was my first step in answering the call to something greater that I could feel coursing through my veins, my belly and my heart.
For most of my life I had felt a push from within that there was something more out there that I needed to understand, it was a constant yearning that I was supposed to be doing “something”
It was an unexplainable sense that there was an essence of something within me that needed to be expressed yet I hadn’t been able to figure out how, when, what or even why.
My Psychic Mediumship Development through the Spiritualist Church was the first instant of answering that call.
The second was in 1998 when the push from within, that insatiable emptiness, a hunger that could not be filled began to stir again and in earnest.
It was one afternoon as I was flicking through our local newspaper that an ad literally jumped off the page at me.
It was an ad for Reiki?
I had no idea what on earth Reiki was as I had never even heard the term before, I did know though that as I looked at this ad my heart started beating wildly in my chest, my palms got clammy and there was an energy coursing through my body almost screaming at me – CALL, CALL NOW, DO IT NOW!!
Of course calling on the home phone was the only option available to me as this was and I’m almost scared to say well before the days of smart phones and internet LOL
There was something inside of me pushing me to call this woman and ask her about it, she was lovely, she explained it to me and I agreed to go along and do the day.
I will admit I still had no clue what it was and how it worked I just knew that I had to be there.
From the moment that I connected to Universal life force energy with the intent of healing another I knew on some deep level that I had come home.
Since then there have been many more events such as answering the call to learning more in depth about the subconscious mind and what makes people tick, answering the call to work with the Angelic Realm in 2012, answering the call in 2104 to share meditation with as many as I can.
Lightworker means that there is a calling within you, a yearning and understanding that there is something for you to do, on some level you know that you are here to share a light with others, you are here to guide people to their own light, you are here to help raise the human consciousness from fear back to love.
A lightworker is someone who makes a conscious choice to answer the call of their Soul, to answer the call of Source.
A lightworker is one that knows that everything that they say and do has an impact on the world around them.
A Lightworker knows that they have the power within them to raise the vibrational frequency of the Planet.
A Lightworker knows that they are a part of something much greater than themselves.
The most direct path for someone who is a lightworker to light up their Soul is to literally do what lights you up.
What makes your heart sing, what fills your mind with inspiration what gets you into your creative flow?
You don’t need to change anyone around you, you just know implicitly that all you need do is shine as brightly as you can and in doing so others will recognise their own light within.
All of the suffering, all of the pain, all of the headache, all of the lessons you willingly agreed to undertake so that your Soul could take the fastest course to awakening and waking up.
Many Lightworkers come into this world almost as though you are picking up where you left off from your previous life.
If all of that has not ignited some form of deep inner knowing inside of you then here are a few more signs that indicate that you are a Lightworker
* You are more of a loner and highly sensitive to peoples energies
* Your life has been a series of challenges and traumas that you recognise have led you to where you are now to awaken you as a healer
* You are naturally drawn to healing and helping others
* You have your own demons with Mental Health and recognise that this is so that you can change the way people see mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health.
* You yourself have undergone an intense Spiritual awakening
* You are drawn to anything that expands your understanding of the Universe and all of its multidimensional layers.
* You intuitively know on some deeper level that you are here for a higher purpose.
* You are highly intuitive and have been from a young age
These are just a few of the signs that you yourself are and have always been a Lightworker.
The darkest times in my life were the periods in which I turned my back on my light, I stopped listing to the call of my Soul and I turned my back on the Universe.
Subconsciously I decided that I really hadn’t suffered enough to be worthy of Serving the Divine Goddesses light.
I am here to tell you that the greatest delusion for a Lighwokers is the belief that you first need to suffer in order to being worthy of wearing your badge of honour.
There is no longer a need for further suffering, pain or loss.
All that you need to do to answer that call is to go within, take time each day to get to know yourself and as you do your Soul will begin to reveal to you the path in which you are to share your light with the world.
As yourself – “What would I do if I could do be or have anything in the world?”
As each of you awaken and light up you become the beacons within the Universe to those who have lost their way and are desperately trying to find their way home.
“May the Light of the Divine Mother Father God shine within you always” (Kerryn Slater)
Do you ever wish that someone would just give you a road map for how you should live your life and where you should go next?
I have spent a lot of life not knowing what I should do or which path that I should take and making decisions of any kind was just down right agonising.
I honesty did not have a clue and I kid you not until I finally “woke” up to what I wanted to do with my life my favourite saying was “I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up” true story ask any of my old work colleagues they will totally vouch for me.
Up until a point in my life which I will happily share with you I just seemed to be in that limbo space where life happened to me.
I never really knew what I wanted to do so I just did what was presented to me, even if I wasn’t overly happy with it I just went right ahead and did it because I just never thought that there were any other options.
Occasionally though I did land flat on my face in the dirt and then I would have the insight of, MMM maybe this path isn’t so great for me after all.
This isn’t to say that I haven’t been a proactive person in my life , I’ve had goals within my work places and have gone on to achieve those. It really was that I was all very “Meh” with where my life was at and didn’t know what I needed to do or could do that would make a difference.
Then I discovered the meditation app Smiling Mind and I made the commitment to myself to meditate morning and night for 5 minutes, because I could spare 5 minutes right that was nothing.
Who would have thought that something as little as 5 minutes twice a day could open up a whole new world of existence to me.
I am not a person who believes in coincidence I believe in synchronicity, where two or more related events occur to bring meaning and direction into your life, you know those moments when you think to yourself, maybe I should learn about meditation and you bump into your girlfriend and she tells you that she has just started up a class.
What regular meditation did for me was get me out of my head and into my body, it was a gradual process that created significant psychical reactions in my body.
I began to have energy flow from my head all the way to my toes.
There was an essence within my body that seemed to be “waking up” each time that I meditated.
It’s difficult to put into words but it felt amazing and it felt like a great big warm fuzzy hug from the Universe, it felt loving, it felt supportive and it was beautiful.
I will admit that there were a lot of tears, happy tears of course, but also tears of release as my healing journey back to wholeness began.
Over the course of several weeks and months as changes began to occur within myself, I could feel that I was becoming a lot more centred, my anxiety and stress levels began to reduce and I was beginning to feel happier and my external world began to change.
I was beginning to reconnect with aspects of myself that I had turned my back on, such as my healing modalities, my intuition, and my excitement for life was returning.
As all of these changes occurred within me and around me and I began to find myself in the right situation at the right time where new opportunities were being presented to me.
I found myself being led to new teachings and learnings that inspired me and gave me the opportunity to learn more about myself on a level deeper than anything than I have ever thought possible.
As my meditation practice grew my inner calm and happiness expanded.
The more centred that I became in my life the clearer the view of my life ahead seemed to be to me.
From the time that I started my daily meditation practice in 2013 to now I have gone from a corporate 9-5 job to now having my own practice helping people change their lives.
This was not something that I ever thought that I would have the opportunity to do as my full time work.
To me my work now is joyful, exciting, creative and fulfilling and I know that I would not be where I am today if I had not made that commitment to myself in 2013.
I went from lost to purpose, drive, a mission and passion in such a short period of time.
I went from having no direction to seeing the unlimited possibilities that lay ahead.
For that I am so grateful every single day.
How often have you jumped in your car packed to the brim with suitcases and personal items ready to hit the road on a vacation or weekend getaway.
Probably more than once right? As you think back to those times can you recall what the driving focus of that was?
Was it the fun that you were going to have on the way playing eye spy or making up names of number plates?
Was it the excitement of stopping at new places along the way and exploring what icons those places had?
Was it an opportunity for you to let you mind wander over all of your achievements up to this point?
Did you take the opportunity to while travelling to listen to your favourite author on audio?
For many of us the answers to all of the above would be No, No, No and No.
We become so focused in life with where we want to be that we completely miss the opportunity to appreciate and experience where we are right now.
Our lives are a perpetual moving forward motion of action that rarely has the chance to stand still and take in all that is already around you.
If you are in a career and you are wanting to advance in that position is your focus on how you can become the best at what you are doing now as a way of fulfilling your own personal growth or is it merely a means to an end?
When you get to that end do you think that you will be as fully prepared and equipped to fulfil the role as someone who has spent the time embracing every aspect of their role leading up to the advanced position?
When an athlete spends all of their time focusing on winning the gold medal, puts in all of the hours the blood sweat and tears do you think when they are standing on that podium that they are feeling a deep sense of gratitude and appreciation for where their life has led them or are they thinking wow my whole life has been just for this moment and now that its here what have I actually done with my life?
While that may seem an extreme example how can you relate this to your own life?
I know just for myself recently my whole focus in the month leading up to my trip to Canada was about making sure that the wheels on my business kept on turning while I was away.
Now this was great as it allowed me to go away and spend quality time with my sister and not worry however I can 100% say that I was not here at all for my family in that lead up.
I also placed myself under a great deal of pressure to complete all that I needed to get done.
My head was so focused on what needed to get done before I sat on that plane that I wasn’t really fully experiencing any of the encounters or enjoying my experiences as fully as I could have been.
When we are fully present in the tasks that we are undertaking, when we focus the enjoyment of it then the outcome of the task will be far more enriched due to the attention that you have given to it.
When a flower begins to bloom it is not rushing to have all of its petals fully expanded, it is revealing in the joy of the sun shining on it, it is revealing in the expansion of its growth as its petals gently open to fully receive the warmth and life giving force of the sun.
I have been walking every day since my return home and I am loving that my focus is on the sounds of the birds that I can hear, the sun on my face, the blue skies the smell of the trees, the occasional swooping magpie and the exhilaration of moving my body.
My focus is not on where I am going or how far I am walking I am fully immersing myself in the experience.
When you begin an art creation is the pleasure in knowing what the final outcome will be or do you draw your joy from the state that you place yourself into to create your art.
When your favourite song comes on the radio you don’t sit there waiting for the end of it, you most likely sing along and feel your spirit soar as you lose yourself in the music.
Life moves so very quickly with all of our deadlines, our to do lists and our technologies.
If all that we ever do is focus on where we are going to next then one day our next is going to be the end of the line and you will be left wondering where the hell it all went.
Take time to be fully present with all that you do. That means when you are having a conversation with someone really look at them and hear what it is that they are saying.
We all too often spend these moments thinking of our replies.
The next time that your child asks you to read to them, really immerse yourself into the characters and cherish these moments that will be gone all too quickly.
The next time that you go for a walk, really feel the movement and power of your body as there will come a day when taking a walk may no longer be an option.
Living your life as fully as you can is allowing yourself to focus on what is happening right here right now.
Goals and dreams are great and we all have them, but without the journey along the way the goals and dreams can never be reached.
The journey is really the unsung hero of our lives, filled with so many incredible encounters, learnings, and experiences that without the destination would not be as sweet.
How I turned being an Empath into my super power
Empath is a word that is widely used now within the 21st century. Every second post that you read on Facey will have either be about an Empath or 5 ways to know that you are an Empath.
While this may seem to be a very new concept within the world of language it is not something that we are unfamiliar with. Mother’s are very aware that their babies react to their moods, if mum is upset the kids are upset, if mum is happy the kids are happy, this would surely be due to the fact that babies are very good at reading energy and the emotions of everyone around them.
In fact if you get the chance to anytime soon watch how a baby watches the world around it, you may notice that they tend to gaze above your head rather than looking directly at you, I experienced this with my own babies and funnily enough, my cats now do the same thing.
What is it that they are looking at? They are looking at your Aura, your energy field that surrounds your whole psychical body, it is from here that they can determine perhaps what is going on with you. If you think of your Aura as being colour and let’s connect this to Love, most of us would agree that the colour of Love would be a soft shade of pink with perhaps subtle differences of shades. Let’s now think about anger, when you think about the energy of anger what colour comes to mind for you? For me, I see very dark red and black as the colours of anger. So babies can not only see those colours as they are shifting and changing within our energy fields they can also feel exactly what it is that we are feeling, babies are pure energetic beings, they have not learned how to be any other way yet, they unlearn their natural abilities the longer that they are around all of us “grown ups”. So whether or not you are consciously aware of it you came into this world a natural Empath and a highly sensitive intuitive Being of pure love.
Some of you have perhaps lost your awareness of this natural ability as you plunged deeply into your Human experience. Many of us, however, have maintained this natural ability right throughout our lives and while we not have been consciously aware of what was happening we have certainly been impacted greatly throughout our lives by this ability.
For as long as I can remember I have always been able to feel what others felt although I did not realise at the time that this was what I was happening. As a result of having this awareness, I became a professional people pleaser, as I would come close to someone who was unhappy, angry, sad or whatever emotion that they were feeling I would instantly think that I must have done something to cause the pain that was within them. This is the very essence of a people pleaser who is an Empath, all of your energy goes into trying to make the other person feel happy so that you can feel ok. Granted we’re are not aware that this is what we are doing we just know that we need to do whatever it takes to make the people around us feel good so that we can feel safe and loved.
Not my drama, not my monkey, is a saying and a state of being that I did not learn the benefit of until I was well into my 30’s. So yes, by my 30’s, I was well and truly a professional people pleaser.
A huge awakening for me in this was recognising that all that my people pleasing was doing was trying to control how everyone around me was feeling in order for myself to be ok. I have learned now that if I focus my attention now on my own wellbeing, my own happiness, and my own energy then I am not as impacted now by others around me, and in those moments when I am I now make a point of turning my energetic gaze inward to myself and trust that all that the other beautiful soul needs will be provided to them. I have learned to embrace being an Empath and I no longer see this as a curse by any means in my life. I now recognise this as my gift in my life as a Highly Intuitive person, a Medium and a Healer.
Being an Empath now supports me in being able to pick up on what is really going on with a client. It means now that I know instantly when something is not working or when they have a huge shift. It means now that when I am doing a reading I know internally exactly who this individual is inside and out. It means as a healer, I know precisely where in a persons life that they are out of alignment. As you can see this ability comes in very handy and is the reason why I can do my work as well as what I do.
Being an Empath is now my super power.
My advice to you if you answer yes to the questions below is to “Know Thyself”. There is a reason that you see this saying so much in all of the Spiritual Texts. The more that you know yourself the more easily it is for you to determine if what you are feeling is yours or the world around you.
Meditation plays two vital roles for me as an Empath, firstly I understand myself on a much deeper level and have a lot more Empathy, compassion and love for myself, therefore when I am encountering another energy I can recognise it and say “Thankyou for releasing all that does not belong to me”
Secondly – As an Empath, it is easy to become drained when in the presence of others, so taking a few moments to go within, to focus on your breath helps you to reenergise and get grounded really quickly. This allows me the freedom to be an Empath and to use this to my benefit in a healthy way.
Learning to say no with love and without the fear of rejection has definitely helped me turn the corner as a people pleaser. Getting out in Nature or even just taking 5 minutes outside to breathe fresh air is incredibly empowering to an Empath. Taking time to recharge by having scheduled “alone” time is vitally important. Take 10 deep conscious breaths before reaching for the food or ciggie that you perhaps use to numb your emotions. Have a cleansing bath once a week of Epsom salts, Bicarb soda and lavender oil to cleanse and release all of that picked up energy.
Here is a quick quiz courtesy of the fabulous Judith Orloff MD to see if you are an Empath…
Have I been labeled as “too emotional” or overly sensitive? If a friend is distraught, do I start feeling it too? Are my feelings easily hurt?
Am I emotionally drained by crowds, require time alone to revive?
Do my nerves get jarred by noise, smells, or excessive talk?
Do I prefer taking my own car places so that I can leave when I please?
Do I overeat to cope with emotional stress?
Am I afraid of becoming engulfed by intimate relationships?
If you answer “yes” to 1-3 of these questions, you’re at least part empath. Responding “yes” to more than 3 indicates that you’ve found your emotional type. Recognising that you’re an empath is the first step in taking charge of your emotions instead of constantly drowning in them.
Staying on top of empathy will improve your self-care and relationships. So, if this has resonated with you on a deep level and you have recognised yourself within these words then perhaps begin implementing some of the strategies that have helped me learn to be a proactive Empath rather than being at the effect of this ability.
How understanding Law of Attraction has changed my life.
I honestly believe that on an energetic level we all have an understanding of Law of Attraction. It is a knowing that we are born with, an innate wisdom, a superpower, and a tool that we are gifted with coming into this human life.
As with all of our natural abilities and talents that we bring into life with us they are conditioned out of us before we really even have a chance to put our superpowers into practice.
I remember back in the day when I was a kid and there was no such thing as the internet or mobile phones. We had the old fashioned dial phones, so I would sit on the floor in front of the phone and visualise the person that I wanted to speak to. I would visualise them picking up their phone and calling me, I would then visualise myself picking up the phone and the two of us speaking. Usually within 5 minutes the phone would call and it would be exactly who I wanted to speak to. Of course, I thought that this was a pretty awesome super power to have and while I have the knowledge of this ability I really didn’t put it into practice actively or consciously in my life. Perhaps you can even relate also to feeling some form of power within you as a child but and just not knowing what it was.
That is to say that I have always had the belief within me that I can create what I want in my life, I just haven’t understood how to harness this intentionally. It’s always been a little like playing the lotto sometimes you win sometimes you don’t.
In 2006 I read a little book called the Secret and watched the movie that went along with it. I will never forget one day my daughter had to be in Melbourne for a choir day, back then we didn’t have a lot of money and we hadn’t put petrol in the car, so I put the Secret practices into place, I was able to manifest random money that I didn’t know that I had, and all the way to Melbourne there was not a single car or traffic on the road because I just visualised a clear flow all of the way. I felt completely and powerfully in the flow of the Universe throughout this time, needless to say it was so unbelievable that my hubby turned to me with a fearful look on his face and said “What the hell is going on” too cause this triggered within me up an ancient fear of my own “power” and so I stopped actively using it. (This in itself is a whole other story).
I lovingly call 2014 my period of re awakening, a time when I stepped out of my self imposed darkness and into the service of the Universe. From that moment until now I feel as though the Universe has taken me on a huge crash course to bringing me up to speed with where I should be in my life. Reconnecting with and understanding the energy of Law Of Attraction has been an instrumental part of this journey.
During this time I was guided to Esther Hicks in 2014, if you don’t know her she is an amazing Human Being who channels a collective consciousness that calls themselves Abraham. I literally stumbled across Esther’s work on YouTube and I was instantly hooked. Her words and the way that she explained Law of Attraction awakened that long forgotten knowing within me.
Here are some examples of how I have put LOA into place in my life since then…
I decided that I was going to visit my sister in Canada, so my story that I told everyone was that I was going to visit her in that year, the story that I was telling myself or the Universe was, Universe I am going to visit my sister and I have no idea how I am going to manage this I just know that I am going.
Needless to say I bought my tickets, then kept up with my mantra, thanks Universe I am so excited to be visiting my sister not sure how anything else is going to happen but I know that you have got this sorted. Happily, all of the funds that I needed to go and visit my sister appeared for me and I was able to go and have one of the most amazing times of my life.
Also in 2014, while searching the internet I stumbled over a place in the UK called Arthur Findlay College. This is a college purely for the study of Psychic Science and Mediumship. Of course, my first reaction when I saw this was “yeah right as if I could ever go there” Then stated “Ok Universe if I am meant to go here, then I know that you will make it happen for me” Not really believing that the opportunity would arise but ever hopeful that somehow it would one day happen.
Unbelievably through a series of events by the December of 2014 this became a very real reality for me. I met a woman at a fete who was telling me all about this place called Arthur Findlay college and low and behold she was going, I thanked the Universe for the time when I would too be able to do this and then let it go. A few months later I caught up with a friend of mine who also mentioned that she too was going, and going on the same trip as the woman that I had recently met, we talked about how awesome if would be if I were going, and again I said thank you to Universe, and it went something like this “Thank you Universe, I have no idea how, I just know that one day I will go here and thank you for making it happen for me” In December of that year the woman that I had met previously advised me that there was a cancellation within the tour and that I should consider going. Again, I had no idea how on earth I would be able to manifest not only the funds, but also the time off from work as well as the support of my family to do this. Luckily for me, I had a session with a beautiful coach who really helped me to identify exactly how I would feel with and without the outcome that I was wanting, she helped me to get really clear on how important it was for me and to identify that it really didn’t need to happen right now, it could actually happen the following year with more time for planning.
As I left the session I felt completely free of my attachment of going on this trip, I thanked the Universe for bringing it to me, again I said, “I have no idea how, I just know that I will when the time is right and thank you for making it happen for me”
That evening when my hubby got home from work, he uttered the most amazing words to me “Ok let’s work out how we can make this happen” and YES you guessed right the following July I was on a plane to the UK. I have many more stories just like those that have happened for me and continue to happen for me.
There are important fundamental keys in understanding and playing with Law of Attraction.
This is what I know to for sure:
What is your worry addiction trying to reveal to you?
Are you that person when everything in your life is coming up roses, you are blissfully in the flow of life, the roses are blooming, it’s blue skies, the sun is shining endlessly and butterflies are fluttering all around you and all that you can think of is SHIT did I leave the iron on.
Granted you may have once left your iron on and the potentiality of your home burning down was very real, but lets be honest most irons now have a built In turn off if left unattended for a certain period of time.
I am here today holding my hand up in ownership that I am addicted to worry. It is the constant churning in your belly.
The endless feeling of – I have forgotten something
Always questioning – Did I lock the front door? It’s having that awful feeling of – mmm am I meant to be somewhere
The panic of thinking OMG what day is it and what am I meant to be doing.
This conditioning started early in life for me, as the eldest sister of 3 brothers and one sister I took on the mothering role at a very young age.
I would worry whenever we were somewhere that they would get lost.
I would worry whenever they were doing something they shouldn’t be that they would get hurt.
I would worry that if we were naughty they would get in trouble.
I constantly worried that if I wasn’t there with them then something might happen
Don’t get me wrong my mother was absolutely more than capable but clearly from somewhere I embraced this belief.
This pattern of behaviour really then just followed me throughout my life and I have just transferred this pattern of worry from my siblings to my children.
What is it then that this feeling of worry really gives to any of us?
The constant churning in most cases if the fight or flight response that never gets turned off.
Its the rush of adrenaline that you think keeps you going.
It’s the underlying belief that things are too good to be true and do I really deserve this level of happiness.
It’s that old saying of waiting for the other shoe to drop.
It’s that saying of it’s too good to be true
It’s the belief somewhere inside all of us that maybe we really don’t deserve to be happy.
It’s the flawed fundamental belief within us that we aren’t good.
Years of marketing strategists and consumerism that has conditioned us to believe that we cant possibly be happy unless we have X,Y & Z.
What is the effect that this has on the body?
Fight or flight secretes the stress hormone serotonin into our bodies.
Constant Adrenaline results in Adrenal fatigue.
What is in this moment that worry is actually doing for you?
I love this concept by Gay Hendricks
1. Worry arises
2. Recognise it as a worry thought
3. Can you take immediate action right now? 4. Then ask yourself “Is this really true”?
5. Shift your focus to more positive states of being like gratitude and appreciation
What is the underlying beneath the worry, what is it that is trying to be revealed to you?
Gay speaks of doing this and it so totally resonates with me in a huge way.
There is a fine line between fear and excitement, the only difference is that you breathe life into excitement and starve fear of oxygen.
Firstly sit and feel the worry as an energy in your body
Ask yourself can I take action on this right now ?
Breathe deeply into the energy of worry Allow whatever it is underneath that is trying to come up, come up.
Example I am leaving soon to visit my sister in Canada.
When I think of this I become overwhelmed with worry.
What is the surface worry
That I am leaving my family here
Will they be ok and function without me? ABSOLUTELY!
Can I take any action to change this – NO they are more than capable of looking after themselves.
What is the feeling beneath this that is wanting to come up.
As I breathe into this worry the underlying feeling is one of pure excitement.
I love my sister dearly and being apart from her plays on my heart.
I am beyond excited to be spending this amazing time with her. So really my feeling is not worry but pure excitement.
My addiction to my worry thoughts had I just stopped with the worry of leaving my family would not have allowed the space for my incredible excitement which is a far better emotion to be filling my body to arise.
Taking time each day to really breathe deeply, at work in your lunch hour, in the morning before you start your day and definitely at the end of your day is a way that you can switch off your fight or flight response.
Breathing deeply into the energy of worry and asking those few important questions can reveal to you a much deeper and rewarding experience in your day.
My choice is the feeling of excitement over worry and this is an active exercise that I will continue doing in my daily life whenever I find myself slipping into the all too comfortable sensation of worry.
What lens do you view your world from?
Do you gaze at life through the eyes of fear, lack, doom and gloom?
Or do you gaze at life through the lens of love, abundance, opportunity and joy?
These are questions that you can easily answer for yourself as you will know how you have reacted to the question in the first place.
If your heart is filled with gratitude for all that you have and you see the beauty in the world then you are looking at life through the lens of love.
If you find yourself feeling that life is working against you, that there isn’t enough for everyone and things never seem to work out for you then you are looking at life through the lens of fear.
You may be thinking to yourself that you can’t change a lifetime of viewing through a fearful lens overnight!
Well here’s the truth — YES you can.
By starting each day with all that you are grateful for:
When you wake up give thanks that you have awoken.
Give thanks for the bed you have to sleep in and the roof over your head.
Give thanks for the water you have to have your hot shower.
Give thanks for the clothes in your wardrobe that you have to wear and thanks to the people who made them.
Give thanks for the food in your fridge to fill your belly.
Give thanks to the people who produced your food.
Give thanks for the job that may have to go to.
Give thanks for your eyes they see what you want to see.
Give thanks for your ears they hear what you want to hear.
Give thanks to your mouth it speaks the words that you choose to say.
Give thanks to your heart it feels what you choose to feel.
Gratitude is the fastest way to shift your view of the world from fear to love.
As you can see from above there is so much to be grateful for and you haven’t even left your house yet.
Have you stopped throughout your day and really listened to the banter that is going on in your head?
Are you aware of what your mental mind is continuously talking about?
The mental mind loves to complain, why would they be doing that and I wonder why they said that and what did they mean when they said that and why aren’t they doing that this way, and why are they wearing that and why are they doing that?
Why do I have to do that and they don’t, it’s not fair, it’s too cold, it’s too hot.
I’m too tired, why won’t anybody listen to me, she’s this, he’s that, I don’t have enough money, I don’t have enough clothes, I don’t have enough things, why can’t I be more like them, the list literally is never ending.
I haven’t even mentioned judgement, criticism, negative self talk.
You get my drift right?
Stop now and focus your attention on your head and what it’s saying, I bet it has a running commentary on everything that you just read, there will be some form of labelling going on and opinion or judgement yes?
We have over 60,000 thoughts a day and we are only aware of 5% of them, and those 5% it is fair today are negative and self limiting in some way –
OMG what is going on with the other 95% of our thoughts and no wonder we are depressed, unhappy, exhausted and constantly seeking that hit of something that will give us a time out, like smart phones, food, alcohol, mindless tv, anything that will somehow chill the constant chatter.
Honesty it makes my head hurt at times my mind can get that busy.
The mind, oh how we love the mind, that two year old child that is constantly wanting our attention, that is constantly trying to distract us, that is always needing to create a story, comment, label, judgment movie novel about anything and everything that is going on around us.
Have you ever had a conversation with someone and you walked away not feeling overly great, you know a small ball of anxiety in the pit of your stomach that makes you think that maybe they weren’t happy with you or that you might have upset them in someway because you just didn’t get the response that you were expecting.
Did you walk away from that encounter and then forget about it?
OF COURSE YOU DIDN’T!!!
This exact situation is like letting your mind child loose in a candy store I bet you it went something like this.
You replayed the conversation over and over in your mind, you relived every word that you said and then every word that they said then you had a running commentary on how was their tone of voice, what were their facial expressions, then you move onto interpreting how they could have interpreted what you had said, and then you try every which way but loose in your head the words that they had said to see if they could fit a different way in your mind and this probably went on and on for days yes?
One of the greatest lessons that I have ever learned from the master of Ego mind duality Mr Echkart Tolle is to bring a conscious awareness to my thoughts.
Conscious meaning awake, aware of instead of being completely oblivious to what is going on inside my head.
So I started to actively pay attention and “listen” to what I was really saying, the judgements that I was making, the stories that I was telling myself and the complaining that I was doing without even realising it.
So each day whenever I would “catch” myself on a story about something I would “stop” and “listen” I would literally just kind of step back from myself and really pay attention to what was going on in my head.
Once I started to pay attention to my thoughts, NOW do not judge yourself for having the thoughts that you are having that is just playing right into the minds hands lol
The idea is to be the observer of what’s going on, and when you notice the story you acknowledge, I say, Oh wow that’s a pretty cool story what else would you like to say about that.
It really did not take long for my mental mind activity to really slow down.
Where once I would have written an Epic novel or have scripted a full movie, I now may only get as far as the first chapter or the first few pages before I catch it, I then acknowledge it sometimes – I might even say “Oh nice work that was a good story” and then it drops away.
It’s impossible to complain about something if you are saying how good it is or how ok you are with it.
EG: Roster comes out for work and Joanne gets three more shifts than you.
Mental mind goes into rampage:
As soon as you catch yourself start saying, you know what I really like Joanne she is such a lovely person and how lucky am I to have work that pays my bills and puts food in my mouth and a roof over my head.
NO room here for mental mind complaining and negativity.
Taking the time to train myself to become more consciously aware of what is going on inside of my head has in all honesty saved my sanity I am sure.
This is not to say that my mind is not still active, it is, but I am aware of it and it does not rule me, I am able to rein it in.
Try this for the next 21 days and just notice how you go, be gentle and kind with yourself, remember story telling is exactly what the mind wants to do and it loves a good drama.
What does faith mean to you?
We hear this word a lot don’t we?
I guess that it has many different meanings for many different people.
The definitions as per google is:
“Complete trust or confidence in someone or something”
“Strong belief in the doctrines of a religion, based on spiritual conviction rather than proof”
Well, I have to say that I really like number 1 that definitely speaks to me.
Complete trust or confidence in someone or something.
I remember as a kid that I would spend every recess outside laying on the grass looking up at the clouds.
I used to see the most amazing things in the clouds, I would see animals and teddy bears and all different shapes, I felt the energy of the ground beneath me and it comforted me, and I felt the energy of “something” else when I gazed up at the sky.
In these moments I felt completely supported and safe in my little world.
I was bought up a catholic and whenever I was at church and the words were being read out it always seemed completely alien to the understanding that I already seemed to have within me.
What was being told to me was not resonating with the deep knowing that I had in my heart about the energy in the world that I felt out side of myself but within myself also.
Now I’m not going to go into a huge religious rant because it’s not all bad and lets be honest everyone needs something and everything has its place.
All that I will say is that I was bought up under description number 2 and it always left me wanting.
The “faith” that I seemed to come into this world with was not something that was taught to me from church because by the time that I was 10 I was becoming very outspoken about my displeasure at what was being delivered to me every week.
Why did I need to go to church to prove that I believed in God became my standard weekly argument.
The God that I knew would never not love me just because I did something wrong, and the God that I knew loved us all no matter what we did.
So my beautiful mum in her infinite wisdom when she could not answer my questions sent me to have a chat to our parish priest.
I will give our parish priest a huge thumbs up because as a person who held a very significant position of power he really could have squashed the curiously and independence of a 10 year old but he didn’t, he asked me to explain to him why I felt the way that I did and what did God mean to me.
I told him that God to me was everything, the sky, the clouds, the birds, the ground, the flowers, the trees, the animals and the people and that I talked to God all the time so why did I have to go into a specific place to prove that I believed in God.
I said to him that I believed that God loved us no matter what we did.
Anyway so much about not getting religious but this lovely man did not squash me, he was very kind compassionate and supportive and actually did not say anything to the contrary of what I had said.
I have confirmed with my mum that after our conversation he actually said to my mum “I could not answer her, everything that she said was right and I couldn’t tell her otherwise.”
Now this is what fascinates me, if my faith did not come from my church environment then where did it come from?
Where does faith come from, what is it, what does it look like, what does it taste like, what does it feel like?
It seems to me to be an incredibly powerful force that if it can’t be grasped or labeled or actualised or contextualised then what is it made of and where does it come from?
Have you noticed that when you are in a situation that you think that you cannot give anymore or have anymore that you have found that when you have dug deep there seemed to be another level to you, some reservoir that you were completely unaware of.
It’s a deep sense that once you have travelled through the layers of fear, panic, desperation, tears and sheer determination that there arises a place of complete surrender where you have no where else to go and nothing else that you can do.
It is like getting to the bottom of the water well and drinking the last drop of water and thinking “OMG” there is no water left I’m going to die of thirst, and as you accept this fact sitting there on your knees, thinking that’s it I’m done theres nothing else, and then miraculously out of nowhere there springs out of the bottom of the well fresh running water.
This is what faith feels like to me, it feels like when you have nothing else left available to you and from no where comes this powerful running force of energy that fills you up.
It comes from deep within you and while you know its of you, you also have a sense that it is also from outside of you.
As this energy wells up within you all of that fear, desperation, confusion and dissolution just seems to melt away and you are left with the thirst quenching feeling of being filled and sated, that all will be well and that you have no idea how, you just know that it will be.
Faith has been that warm feeling of being hugged by something unseen when fear tightens your belly and closes your throat.
Faith is seeing a situation unfolding before your eyes that could potentially ruin your life and as you sit there making a promise to this unseen force that if you could just get me out of this I promise to spend that rest of my life working in your service and the situation before you changes in a split second.
Faith is that feeling of knowing that in the midst of something outside of yourself completely controlling your whole life that somewhere, somehow you are going to be saved from yourself.
Faith is that feeling in your heart that lets you know that there is still hope, even though you can’t see it you just know that its there.
Faith is when all of the roads before you have come to a dead end and you cannot see any other way forward and all that you can do is sit and wait.
Faith is that person who just shows up literally a day after you have put the thought out there that you need someone.
Faith is when the world is doing its best to strip all hope from our hearts through fear and despair but there’s a stubbornness within you that refuses to give up hope.
Faith is when you have absolutely no clue where you are going but if you just keep putting one foot in front of the other then a miracle might show up.
Faith is the witnessing of man when he comes to the rescue of his fellow brother with no thought to his own safety.
Faith is all you have left when the world seems to have gone crazy and you keep believing in your heart that all will be well even when you have no proof.
Fatih is not having a clue what it is that I’m supposed to do or where I am supposed to go but knowing deep down inside of me that, if I just follow this or keep doing that it will all reveal itself to me.
My life has shown me over and over again that no matter where I am or what I am doing there is a presence that flows within me and outside of me that is forever guiding me, supporting me and protecting me.
I have a faith that I cannot explain that we, all of us are one, that we all of us are loved, that we all of us are not just random acts within a chaotic Universe.
I have faith that ALL OF US have come into this life with a deep knowing and a deep connection to the force and the fabric that holds this Universe together and that it is available to us and through us always.