Having spent the majority of my life being a Yes person and a chronic people pleaser, setting healthy boundaries for myself was something that I had always struggled with.
Saying no to someone always came with the fear of rejection, and of not being loved.
What I have come to know is this…
The people who love and value you the most are totally loving, respectful and accepting of your boundaries.
Why? Because these are YOUR people. They are the ones that value you as a person and they support your choices.
The people that don’t like your boundaries are NOT your people and it’s ok to not have them in your life.
We spend so much of our precious energy trying to get love and validation from people whom if we are completely honest with ourselves are not in alignment with our own integrity or personal values.
Learning to say thanks but no thanks with love has empowered me greatly in my life.
Choosing the right kind of people to surround myself with has improved my life and my sense of happiness.
Saying sure I’m happy to do that – and then saying when suits me to do so has also empowered me in my life.
On an energetic level when you decide to set boundaries for yourself you are in fact making the statement to the world that you matter, your needs are important and it is the greatest act of self love that you can do for yourself. It is from here then that you begin to attract to you the right people who love, value, accept and honour you.
This creates a ripple effect in your life as you begin to experience more love, value and respect from those that are already in your world.
Those who are not your people will either step up to being that or will simply fade out of your life.
Where in your life do you currently need to set healthy boundaries that serve your highest good?