Why is it that we do this?
So often I hear the language of what people speak.
I hear people continuously repeating the reasons why they can’t improve their life.
The reasons why they can’t be well, the reasons why they can’t let go of the past, the reasons why they can’t have the life that they want and they continue on with the same story over and over again.
Things like “I’m too much of an introvert to get out there and explore life”, “I have too much anxiety and social anxiety to be able to move forward in my life” and while yes these are very real states of beings that people experience they can also become your greatest prison.
The prison of the four walls of your limitations, and if you look around the four walls of your limitations perhaps once is wearing the face of your mother, or one is wearing the face of your past relationship, or wearing the face of high school and being told you weren’t good enough.
Perhaps one is wearing the face of your boss as you watch everybody else around you receiving the encouragement and rewards in career that you believe yourself to be entitled to.
A situation that only seems to validate to you the reasons that you have decided why you can’t move forward.
This is what I now about the Universe.
The Universe will send to you situations and people to continue to validate to you what it is that you are feeling inside.
IF you are not feeling good about yourself inside, if you are feeling less than or unworthy and the story inside that you are telling is that you are not good enough to get further, that you are not good enough to get that job, that you are not good enough to be the weight that you want, that you are not good enough to be as healthy as you want to be, that you are not good enough to have the right relationship, then the Universe will continuously send situations and people to you so that you can continue to tell the story that you are currently telling.
This is a lifetime of conditioning, this is a lifetime of repeated patterns of behaviour and this is a lifetime of telling the same story over and over again.
Underneath it all there is the desire to reach a level of happiness, you will have that ideal perhaps of where you want to be and then the old conditioning will give all of the reasons as to why you can’t be happy.
This is only serving to continuously embed into your consciousness all of the reasons why you can’t.
What I have come across regularly is the phenomenon of presenting an alternative, challenge or solution to a particular situation only to have the person immediately begin to tell me all of the reasons why they can’t.
They immediately begin to argue for their limitations.
What is the story that you are telling yourself and those around you, begin to notice the moments when you go into the age old argument of holding onto your self imposed limitations.
You will know when this is occurring because your instant response to a new through process or a new opportunity will be “I can’t do this because …. “
“I’m not ready to this until …….”
“I need to do this before I can do that……”
“I still have more work to do on myself”
“I don’t have enough of …….”
and so on and so on and so on.
How are all of these limitations currently serving you?
How is the story that you are telling fulfilling you and your life?
Is the story that you are telling allowing for growth, is it allowing for you to be ready and willing when opportunity knocks on your door for you to just step through the doorway.
When you are arguing for your limitations the Universe is bringing to you opportunities for you to expand and grow because deep down that is really what you want, yet the moment that the door opens you slam it shut shouting all of the reasons why you can’t step over the threshold.
If you have had enough and are tired of continuously arguing for your limitations, then why not change the story that your telling, why not risk daring to dream for more, why not risk being brave just this once.
What is there really that you have to lose?
Have you not already lost all that you can by not daring to live the that you want to live right now.
Have you already given into the bullshit belief that the life that you want just isn’t available to you.
If you have already decided that you are not going to move forward in your life then really what else is there for you to lose?
Have you decided that there is no advancement available to you and this is as good as it gets?
And if so how does that really make you feel?
Is there a part of you deep within yourself that is raging at the thought that you might be giving up on your dreams and your passions?
Is there a voice from deep within you that is saying “No, I’m not ready to give up, why can’t I have what others have?
If this is the case then start telling a different story
Start saying YES to life, because in order for you to be able to overcome and move through the story of your limitations, the argument of your limitations you need to call bullshit on yourself.
I know that this is not always easy, what I do know for sure is that it is 100% possible should you choose to make a lasting change in your life.
So next time that you hear yourself arguing for all of the reasons why you can’t do something, in your mind say “I call bullshit” and then say…
“What if I did this”?
“What if I just said YES”?
“What if I just stepped over the threshold of this open door and give it a go, I can always come back to safely of where I am now and that’s ok” “At least I will have tried and given it a go”
Do you not think that it is better to have lived and failed??
Let’s be honest here, there is no such thing as failure, there are only learnings and feedback.
If you deem yourself to have failed at something that you have tried why not instead see this as the opportunity that it is for you to decipher what worked well, what did you like, what didn’t you like, what would you do differently next time.
In every perceived failure there is so much opportunity for growth and to learn so much more about yourself that you knew before.
The next time that you step forward to do something else you will be empowered with the knowledge of what works for you and what doesn’t.
So much of the indecision that people experience today is because they just aren’t willing to take a risk.
None of us have all of the answers, none of us are given a guarantee that what are going to try will work and knowing this I still believe that it is so much better to have at least tried rather than be on my deathbed filled with regret at all of the opportunities in my life that I had let slip through my fingers.
Stop today arguing for your limitations and start arguing for your greatness, your worthiness and start arguing for your YES to life.