Are fear and your Ego mind controlling your life? And if so are you tired of it yet?

What is the Ego mind really? I am sure that you have heard me speak of this before and I guess that I will continue to speak of it for as long as we, a human collective, have an Ego.

I loved that Wayne Dwyer said EGO = Edging God Out and no truer words have been spoken.

The Ego is the negative Nancy in your head that tells you tonnes of bullshit stories such as…

I’m not good enough
I can’t do this or that
When I look like this I’ll be able to do that
I can’t do this because my body is not the right shape
When I look that way then I’ll be able to live my souls purpose
When I find have the right relationship I’ll have happiness
It’s not safe to trust.

Feeling as though you are in competition with others.
Feeling excessively that you are better or more intelligent than everyone else yet do nothing to share that intelligence to help empower others.
Reliving your pain story over and over again.
Starting your Spiritual awakening and then allowing self doubt, self worth and the non support of people around you to convince you that it is not for you.

I am continually hearing peoples stories as to why they cannot be well, why they can’t be healed, why they can’t live their life, why they can’t listen to their Soul, why they can’t be happy, why they can’t share their gifts, why they can’t live the life that they want. 

YES life can be scary, YES change can be fearful AND YES taking ownership for what lights you up can at times feel overwhelming and unchartered but how is your life of NOT living what brings you joy working out for you right now?

FEAR = Fantasised Events Appearing Real

Fear and Ego are very good friends. Your Ego mind wants you to continuously live in the false illusion that you are less than, that people wrong you, that others are out to get you, that you are separate from the Source of All That Is and the EGO absolutely does not want you to tap into your Soul, your own inner power your own Divinity.

The Ego fears above all else death, and if we really look at what the Ego drives us all to do really it is on some level a form of death. 

It convinces us to over eat, to not go for that walk today, to stay in toxic relationships, to justify holding onto anger and staying small.

What is this GOD that the EGO is edging out?

It is the aspect of you, the big Self that is connected to All That Is, God, Source whatever you want to call it.

It is the aspect of you that knows without a doubt that you are light, that you are love, loveable, worthy and free.

It is the aspect of you that has given you the nudge to become that healer, to be that writer, to shout your voice, to sing your songs, to light up a room, to make someone laugh, to shine your light, to empower another, to teach, to heal, to create, to birth constant streams of creative ideas that come to you.

This is the voice of your Soul that lovingly and endlessly nudges you in the direction of growth that you have wanted to expense in this lifetime.

When you turn your back on being a healer, when you put away those paints, when you keep your mouth shut, when you believe that you are less than, when you hold onto pain you are in fact cutting yourself off from the flow of your Soul and of the Unconditional loving force of the Universe.

I am yet to see a healer that wasn’t born to be a healer, a singer that wasn’t born to sing, an artist that wasn’t meant to create, a spiritual teacher that wasn’t meant to teach, a writer that wasn’t meant to write and so many more.

You receive the intuitive nudge and guidance of what you could do in this life because it is what you were BORN to do.

It is a creative force that once you embrace it and allow yourself to feel the joy of it your Heart, your Mind, your Soul and your Life expands in all directions, all directions of greatness, light and expansion. 

What I know for sure is that there is no way that you could receive a creative intuitive inspiration that you weren’t meant to, it is impossible for you to conceive of anything that you do not already have the tools, skill, talents and resources to bring it to life.

So who is the driver of your life then? If you choose for it not to be Fear and your EGO then what?

Why not try this on for size, why not allow your Soul to be the driver of your life? When you are connected to your Soul, you are connected to the Sources of All That Is, you are connected to ALL, it is from this space that you have the freedom to live a life that is Heart centred, you become more in tune with nature and others around you. When you are connected to your Soul the love of the Universe flows to you and through you. When you are connected to your Soul you no longer need to hold onto the BS stories that make up who you think you are. When you are connected to your Soul you are guided to all that is for your Highest Good. When you are plugged into the Universe you are always guided to the right people, places and situations. When you listen to the voice of your Soul she will guide you to actions required to birth your creations. When you allow your Soul to be the driver of your life then with her love and strength you will feel that fear and do it anyway.

When the love of the being connected to your Soul/Souls purpose and the incredible feeling of being in the flow of life fills your Heart there are no words that can be said to ever hold you back. 

Get your journal out today and write this at the top of your page: “What would my Soul like to say to me today” Go with it, just breathe and write everything that comes to you. If you do this everyday you will begin to hear the voice of your Soul instead of the voice of your Ego. You will start to live a life in Love instead of Fear. You will begin to expect that magic will show up for you everyday and that miracles really do exist. 

In any given moment you have the power within you to choose which is the driving force of your life. Fear or Love?

It is from here that the Universe hears the song of your Soul and moves in close to revel in the brilliance of all that you are.


Taking back your power and cutting the cords of attachment

Do you often wake up in the morning feeling great and then before your feet have even touched the ground you are already weighing yourself down with memories of your past.

It is as though your bedroom becomes filled with all of the people and situations from your past that have ever caused you hurt and pain.

Aren’t you tired of starting your day carrying all of those people from your past on your back. They are there with you in every conversations, in every car ride, in every relationship and pretty much in every area of your life.

Whenever you remember an event from your past your body begins to respond as if you are in fact right there in that moment. This is the power of the subconscious mind, it does not know the difference between what is real and what is imagined. 

So each time that you delve deep into that past event you are literally taking yourself right back there to that time and place. 

Each time that you relive an event from your past you are literally plugging yourself into that person or situation, and as your hurt and anger arises against that person or situation you create a cord of attachment to it. 

Image that you have a cord of energy running from your Solar Plexus, as you tune into the energy of a person or situation this cord of energy from your solar plexus then plugs into that person or event.

As soon as you are plugged into this your precious life force energy then starts to flow out of your body and into that person or situation.

From here they unknowingly begin to cipher the precious life force energy from your body. 

Have you ever experienced walking away from someone and feeling utterly drained and exhausted? This is a perfect example of how in that moment you plugged yourself into that person and they began to literally drain your life force.

Here are some simple techniques that you can put into place to release yourself from these attachments.

1. Ground yourself fully into the heart of Mother Earth each morning.

2. Begin your day with a protection visualisation – Check out mine HERE

3. When you are with another person imagine that you are being filled with energy from the Universe/Sun or Mother Earth and focus your attention on your breath.  

4. Thank you ArchAngel Michael for cutting all cords of attachment.

In order to fully release yourself from your past situations and free yourself from the Karmic lessons that these situations create for us here is what you can do:

1.  Write a list of all of the people and situations that are still causing you pain today. As you view each person or situation ask yourself: “What is the learning in this situation for me”? (now it is important here that you focus on the learning that has provided you with personal and spiritual growth).

2. Once you have obtained all of the higher learnings bring each person to mind and say: “I now forgive and release you, my karmic lesson in this situation is now fulfilled and no longer serves my Highest Good.”

3. For a deeper release you might like to check out my Cutting the Cords meditation HERE and introduce this into your evening spiritual practice.

This saying is something that has remained with me for such a long time and I am reminded of it often:

“Holding Anger against another is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die” 

True freedom and peace comes from letting go of your past. It has served its purpose or if not the Universe will continue to bring these situations into your life so that you do have the opportunity to learn and grow.

I don’t know about you but I certainly am only happy to go through these crappy situations once and learn from them.

I have cycled and recycled so many learnings in my life before the Ah ha moment finally arrived and I was able to get the meaning and the message of it and then release it and let it go.

Making the choice to be free can only be made by you, it is your decision and when you are completely ready to do so then put all of the above in place and begin to experiences the weightlessness of opportunity and new beginnings. 




How to successfully implement intentions and goals into your life

How many times have you started out your new year with the promise to yourself that this is the year that you are going to do all of those “things” that you know are good for you.

You know those things such as implementing daily spiritual practices, meditation, journalling, exercising, healthy eating, self development, being kinder to yourself and the list goes on.

I have often felt like that crazy “Gonna” person!

I’m gonna do this and I’m gonna to that but then you never really do any of it. It’s so embarrassing and I get so frustrated with myself at times because everyone else around me knows that I said I was “gonna” do it and I haven’t.  It’s hard to hide your inner “gonna” when you are constantly telling everyone what you are going to do isn’t it. 

On some level you would actually think that telling everyone what your plans or intentions are would somehow keep you accountable, but we all know that it doesn’t, we just avoid making eye contact with those people in the hopes that they won’t be triggered to remember what we said that we were going to do and then they won’t ask us “have you don’t that yet’.

This also activates within us a sense of shame, of wanting to hide out just a little because we feel like some great big giant phoney. 

So to assist you in avoiding feeling like a phoney, having to avoid eye contact with your friends and allow you to leave your home I have discovered some really useful tips that help you stay on track with your intentions. 

  1. What is your intention?  Be specific here and keep it simple.
  2. How can you measure this? How will you know when you have accomplished your intention? What needs to happen?
  3. What does it mean to you? Why is it important? What is your WHY for wanting to do this?
  4. Imagine how you will feel, what you will see, what you will here when you have implemented your intention. What will the ripple effect into all other areas of your life be once you have implemented your intention?
  5. Is it realistic?  Eg – If you are completely tone deaf is it reasonable that you will be singing in clubs in 1 month? Is your intention good for you, your family, your community and the Planet? Is it for you Highest Good and the Highest good of others?
  6. What is the time frame that you are going to implement this within?
  7. What needs to happens that you know that you have achieved it?
  8. AGAIN – See it, feel it, hear it, feel it, know it to be SO.
  9. See yourself as though you are actually in your body successfully implementing and achieving your goals/intentions.
  10. Each week revisit your intentions and your goals to be sure that you are keeping in alignment with what you have been intuitively guided to implement into your life.

Before you know it beautiful one you will be standing with your head proudly raised deliberately looking your friends in their eyes with the biggest grin on your face because you are now no longer a “gonna” chick.

You are an empowered successful being who is living your life to the fullest.

The greatest feeling is that of having achieved what you have set out to do for yourself.




Clutter and Energy

Let’s talk about clutter and energy.

It makes sense that when your house is clean it allows energetically for more to flow into your life.

This is because It creates space in your life, your house is your outer reflection of what is going on in your mind internally.

When you clean there is a significant shift, it’s like you’re reorganising things in your mind.

As you’re decluttering and as you’re putting things into order – you’re actually putting things into order in your mind.

Your mind is your house and it needs the attention in order to live peacefully.

What is your Soul yearning to Express?

From as far back as I can remember my life has always been driven by some form of yearning.
A deep inner knowing that there was something that I was meant to be doing that I just couldn’t quite put my finger on.
This yearning has led me down many roads throughout my life, psychic mediumship development, healing, understanding the human psyche on a deeper level and meditation. All with the hope of being able to put my finger on what it is that I’m supposed to do. 
There seems to be within all of us a feeling that there is something that we have forgotten to do, you know that feeling in the pit of your stomach when you leave home and you can’t remember if you turned the iron off or not. 
A sense from deep within you that you said that you would do something but for the life of you, you just can’t seem to remember what it was.
What I have come to know and understand, and please note I do not know all, is there is no way that the story of the Universe and all of the mysteries that it holds can be known, are these few things.
We are more than just a physical lump of meat living this human experience, I have come to know and understand that we are infinite Beings who carry within us a spark of Divinity that connects us to All That Is. 
What is All That Is? It is many names for the one energy source, Divine Intelligence, God/Consciousness, Divine Mind, Christ Consciousness and so on, it is the Source that is the whole of this incredible Universe in which we are life forms that reside on a Planet that is orbiting through space.
It has long been believed that our Soul is an essence that is housed or contained within our Physical bodies.
When I heard this description from Neal Donald Walsch’s “Conversations with God” book it resonated with me on such a deep level.
The Soul is the essence of the Divine that holds that body together, the Soul cannot be contained, it cannot be limited and it can never be harmed as it is eternal, it always has been and it will always be now and forever. 
If the Soul can never be harmed then what is with all of the suffering that we have all endured throughout our lives.
This has really made me wonder about our human conditioning and our suffering, if the Soul can never be harmed then the pain that we experience is in some way a choice that we have made before arriving here. 
The Soul has come forth into this incarnation with the clear intent of having a human experience, an experience that will allow it the opportunity for growth, opportunities at each event, each pain, each hurt, each disappointment, judgement and criticism to remember who we really are. 
More than 15 years ago I saw this saying “We are not Human Beings having a Spiritual Experience, We are Spiritual Beings having a Human experience.” I have only just thrown out the cutting of this that I had, it was tattered and curled up around the edges as I have carried it with me wherever I have gone for that long.
Each time that I have felt disillusioned with this life I would take out that piece of paper and really consider what the essence of that meant to me.
If I am a Spiritual Being then I would have chosen to come into this life with intention, I would have gone from a realm of absolute unconditional love and unity, knowing that I was bringing all of the tools that I could ever need within me to carry out the mission that my life journey was to fulfil. 
As I am sure many of you have asked before my burning questions for such a long time have been “What is my Purpose” What am I here for” and “What is it that I am meant to be “doing.”
Each of us come into this human form with the orchestrated experiences that will provide us with the perfect environment to remember our gifts, our compassion, our love and our joy.
You have come into this life with the desire to express the voice of your Soul.
This may be to raise awareness for those that are less fortunate than yourself.
It may be that you have gone through a traumatic life event and you have the burning desire to be of assistance to those going through a similar journey.
You may feel the driving force to speak out for those who are too weak to speak for themselves.
It may be to bring the importance of looking after our Planet to anyone who will listen. 
You may have within you the urge to release your creativity into the world. 
Bringing children up in a loving and safe environment so that they can be free to discover who they really are.
Treating people with kindness and respect regardless of their religion, race, colour and sexual orientation. 
Perhaps you have the knowing within you that every person deserves to be heard and you patiently sit for hours and allow others to purge to you. 
The list is literally endless.
Your Soul has a voice that wishes to be expressed, your only requirement is to get quiet enough so that you can feel and hear the message that is constantly being streamed to you.
Your Soul is patiently waiting for you to remember its existence, to remember that you are more than you think that you are, to remember that the Divine Intelligence of All That Is, is also within you.
The truest essence of who you are can never die nor can it ever be harmed.  
When you raise your awareness to that level it seems more probable to you then that perhaps the fear that you feel in going within, in expressing yourself, in asking yourself the big questions is unfounded and can be transcended.
Here are some questions that you can use to assist in connecting to and hearing what it is that your Soul wishes to express.
  1. If I could be the voice of my Soul what would I say ………………
  2. If I could feel the essence of my Soul what sensations would I feel in my body ………….
  3. What is the one thing that I would do if there were no limits……………….
  4. If I could change one thing in the world what would that be…………………..
  5. What am I not allowing myself to hear right now?
The greatest connections that I have felt to my Soul have been through meditation.
When you allow yourself the time to sit in quiet, focusing on your breath, music or an affirmation, after a period of time the mental mind becomes quiet, the thoughts slow down and from between the thoughts you begin to become aware of a presence, a presence that is not you, a presence that is not your thoughts, your past or your future it is just there waiting patiently for you.
It is from within this space that the voice of your Soul is the loudest, be sure to have a pen and paper handy so that you can write your questions above, the act of writing also distracts the mental mind and allows the insights and messages of your Soul to flow through. 

The Journey of Healing Ourselves

My story started in full strength at 21, although for all my life I have had a huge insight. The drive within me was just as profound. I felt within me this push and drive and real essence that there’s something that I am supposed to be doing other than this, and I just don’t know what it is.

One of the greatest insights was recognising that our only responsibility is to heal ourselves.

It is so important to work on our own self-healing and getting out of our own way.

If this feels like you, find out more about my story here.

Addictions and Acceptance

Where’s your mobile phone right now as you’re reading this sentence?

Is it in your hand? Maybe it’s right next to you as you are scrolling on your laptop.

If it’s within sight, welcome to the club.

The Internet is everywhere. Internet-based technology has begun to be included in almost all electronic devices. At times, it feels like these devices literally run the world.

The Smartphone addiction is real and it’s largely driven by our own need for worthiness and acceptance.

Watch this short snippet below for more about addictions, acceptance and connecting to the universe as a whole.

Do you hide your Spirituality?

You know this right??

The fact that you are here reading this right now would indicate that you have a level of awareness and understanding of what I’m about to share with you. 

Many of us have come into this Human experience with a definitive mission for our Soul’s greatest growth. 

Opportunities, people, places and situations that we have predetermined will be the best environment for us to awaken to our own Divinity.

Before we enter into our human life we come knowing that we have all of the resources within us to successfully achieve the expansion, awareness and the remembering that we are Spiritual Beings. 

A part of this undertaking is the agreement that we will all undergo a form of amnesia, meaning that we will forget that we are infinite Beings deeply connected to the Source of All That Is and that we are not separate from this Divine force. 

That means that on a Soul level we know that all of the traumas, the broken relationships, the pain and suffering that we endure we have chosen specifically so that in the moments of our greatest despair may find ourselves on our knees seeking the assistance of this Divine lovely force and remember who we truly are. 

Some of us remember early in our lives that there is something more to us than meets the eye.

We sense that there is a Higher Power that watches over us and guides us, some of you probably have even had experiences of being an Empath or naturally intuitive as you were growing up. 

You may have had a natural affinity to nature and could feel the energy of life that surrounds all of Mother Earths creations.

You may have have moments in your life of sensing or seeing Spirit.

You perhaps could walk into a room and sense the feelings of everyone in there. 

You could have like so many children arriving today been able to see colours and auras around people. 

Many of you may have even had imaginary friends who were in fact your guardian Angels or guides that assisted you through those periods in your lives. 

What then happens as we begin to show these traits, these inner knowings that cannot be explained by those who we live with and those who we spend our time with and we subconsciously begin to keep our knowingness to ourselves.

As you grow into an adult you have potentially learned from your childhood that it isn’t safe to express all that you perceive and know of the world around you.

You have possibly bought into this lifetime from past life experiences the remembering of percussion and even death at having expressed your gifts. 

So why then in this age of information technology where anything from chakras, to auras, to Angels, guides, animal medicine, psychic mediumship, spirit and all things woo woo do we continue to hide that side of ourselves.

I have met so many beautiful souls who have within them the capacity for so much intuitive insight yet they are too afraid to voice their views, their knowingness and their infinite wisdom.

From my own experiences as coming into this world as an extreme Empath and Intuitive and going to bed overnight watching Spirit walking past my bedroom door and visiting with me is this.

People are afraid of the of what they do not understand.

They themselves are sensing the power of the Divine within you, they are on some level recognising the Soul that you are and the further away from remembering their own Divinity that they are it causes an internal reaction within them of something in me is missing and that there is something in you that sees the truth of who they are.

If we take into consideration the idea that many of us without really knowing why or what it is feel on some level that there is something wrong with us, that there is something that we are meant to be doing or that we know on a deep soul level that our current choices and way of living is not serving the greater good of the Soul.

So when you are in contact with someone coming from that state in that moment there is a deep resonance with their own Soul, in that moment the person is recognising on a Soul level that they have forgotten who they are and can only sense the distance of perceived separation and while they may not be able to articulate this or process it on a logical and intellectual level they are recognising it intuitively. 

We are all afraid of judgement, we are all wanting to be accepted and validated by those around us and we are all wanting to “Fit in” with everyone else.

When you share your Divine guidance, your intuitive knowings and your Empathic feelings with another you are giving them the opportunity to remember themselves as a Spiritual Being.

When you offer healing to another or speak of your love of all things Angelic, you are in that moment being a conduit and a voice for the Divine loving intelligence of the Universe.

When you feel the fear and every fibre of your Being is telling you that it is not safe to speak consider this for a moment;

IN the moment that you have a deep knowing of someone or something you are in fact communing with your Soul self and the presence of the Divine.

If this is an energy that you are not always used to connecting with then it can feel like an extremely powerful presence running through your body and it is very easy in that moment to interpret this as fear.

When your body experiences excitement or fear the same energy is created within your body, you have in that moment the chance to move into fear thought based thinking or breathe into it and give thanks to the energy that is moving through you.

As soon as you do this you give yourself over to the unconditional love of the Universe and it then becomes about the Highest good of another and viola fear is dissipated.

Every time you feel the thoughts, feelings and words that want to move through you and you cut them off you are in that moment cutting yourself of from your Soul/Higher Self and from the Divine.

Now there will be times when another is not ready to hear what it is that you have to say and this is why you should always speak from your Heart.

Not from the need to be right or to show off how much you know (Yes this is from experience that I share this with you)

When you come from a place of kindness, compassion and love then all that you say and express will be wrapped in that essence.

When you express your knowingness with the intention of being a conduit of the loving force of the Universe for the wellbeing of others then it is delivered in a way that while perhaps not acknowledge on a human level it will absolutely resonate within that persons subconscious, their own intuition and on a Soul level. 

The truth of what you are saying will act as a soothing balm to their ears, it will reverberate throughout their body and while they may not be able to process the information in that moment it will certainly set the wheels in motion to open mindedness and seeing life in a different way.

When you stop the flow of your own Divine inner knowing and Spirituality it creates within your body a sense of loss, a feeling of wrongness and a more intense feeling of separateness from the world around you.

One of the greatest lessons that I have learned about my own Spiritual journey has been that I came into this life with a great deal of remembering. 

I now understand why I chose on a Soul level to travel down a dark path of suffering for a period of time where I turned my back on my spirituality and my knowingness.

It was during these years that I separated myself completely so that when the timing was right I could once more bring myself back in alignment and in doing so experience the full force and power of the Unconditional love of the Universe.

I remembered my own Divinity so profoundly that it healed me instantly from the pain that I had endured and it gave me the determination to never again quieten the voice of my Truth or my Spirituality. 

My perception completely shifted from fear of what others might say or how they might judge me to only being interested in feeling the loving presence of the Angelic, Spirit and the Universe.

In the moments that you squash that rising voice that wants to express itself through you, you are denying the truth of who you are.

You are denying the soul that you are interacting with the chance to express itself on a deeper level also.

I am also absolutely positive that you can recount many moments throughout your life where you have walked away from a situation and kicked yourself for not saying what was wanting to come forth from you.

I bet that there are hundreds of times when you thought that you should have picked up the phone or messaged someone and you didn’t only to find out that they were going through a really tough time.

I bet that you have experienced an urge to reach out and touch another who is in pain only to talk yourself out of it.

I am sure that there have been many times in your life when you felt an overwhelming sense of love and compassion for someone and the words to express were on the tip of your tongue and you didn’t express them to then wish later that you had of.

You are constantly being given nudges from the Universe at the exact moment in perfect Divine timing of when action is required, if we miss that moment it really does leave a sense of loss within us and that is because we have in fact missed a unique opportunity for our Souls to connect and commune as one.

So next time that you feel the urge to hide your spiritual self, your loving self, your true self, have a thought that you could potentially be denying yourself and another of a magical union of the Divine.